Here’s a video from a while back that I wanted to share with you, because it has some helpful tips when it comes to love and relationships.
I wanted to take a moment to share some incredible news and talk about what’s been on my heart lately regarding relationships, manifestation, and embodying our vision of love.
Today was a thrilling day for me, and I can’t wait to dive into it with you all.
Receiving a New Gift and Expanding My Brand
Recently, I received some truly great news. A wonderful mentor of mine, who guided me through the depths of tarot and specialized as a relationship expert, decided to pursue her dreams even further.
She’s been thriving in her own company for 13 years now. As a token of her journey, she gifted me the “Relationship Success Now” site and Facebook page. I quickly secured the domain name and possibilities are swirling in my mind about where this could lead within my own brand.
While Relationship Success Now will become something special in the future, my focus today is on another important journey.
Diving into the Spiritual Love Detox Challenge
Today is all about the Spiritual Love Detox Challenge. This challenge is designed to help us release old patterns and open ourselves to new love and possibilities.
Specifically, today’s focus centered around crafting your vision of love and allowing yourself to dream and be creative.
I truly believe in the importance of giving ourselves permission to envision the love we want, outside the effects of stereotypes and limiting beliefs.
But tomorrow will be a little different since it’s Savvi’s birthday, and I want to celebrate with her. Instead of a live session, I’ll share a special guided visualization you can enjoy at your own pace.
This tool will help walk you through the relationship of your dreams and tap into what you desire at a deep level. If you’re interested, you can sign up for the challenge here.
Design the Love Life You Desire & Deserve
As I reflect on my own relationship journey, I realize how little space we sometimes give ourselves, especially as women, to actually dream big about love.
We are so often conditioned to accept what comes rather than design what we desire.
That narrative needs to change.
We have the power to cultivate our personal vision of love, letting go of what no longer serves us and only welcoming relationships that fit the life we truly want.
Breaking Old Patterns and Blocks
Our Spiritual Love Detox Challenge started by exploring who we are, what we love, and what blocks might be holding us back.
It’s so easy to stay stuck on negative experiences and vibrate with that same frequency, attracting people who mirror our wounds.
But as soon as we identify and heal those patterns, our vibration changes and we begin to attract higher quality connections.
Too often, conversations about relationships center on complaints and past wounds. We need to break out of this cycle.
Complaining keeps us stuck, but stepping into our power and clarity can change everything.
Releasing Limiting Beliefs and Dreaming Bigger
We often accept less than we deserve, arguing over relationships that don’t serve us, or holding on to “trash” without realizing it.
A funny post I saw about women defending relationships that were not serving them reminded me that we don’t ever have to argue for garbage.
We’re not meant to settle in love or life!
We deserve the love we desire, whether it looks like quiet countryside living or luxurious adventures around the globe.
Part of this work is asking ourselves, “What would it look like if I stopped playing small?”
My mentor Abiola posed this question, and now I challenge you to consider it too.
Embracing Our Role as Co-Creators
We are co-creators of our lives. If you’re unhappy with yourself, or any area of your life, like job, family, relationship status, finances, health, you have the power to shift out of the victim mindset.
When we release old blocks, doubts, and fears, that’s when transformation happens and we begin living our best life.
Taking Control Over Our Thoughts
Tonight, I pulled a card from my “Getting Into the Vortex” deck focused on relationships. The message was:
“I have complete control over my own thoughts.”
This card reminded me that we often blame circumstances or others for our feelings, but the true power lies in shifting our own perspective.
We can’t control anyone else’s vibration or behavior, but we can absolutely direct our own thoughts and feelings. Focusing on positive and desired outcomes, rather than replaying past wounds, changes everything we attract.
When we spend time feeling and visualizing the love we want, we begin drawing it in. But when we linger in negativity, we continue to attract the same unwanted experiences.
Letting Go of “Potential” and Clarifying What We Want
Another important lesson is about letting go of relationships based on “potential.” I used to see the best in people and believed I could help them grow.
As a coach and nurturer, this comes naturally to me, but I learned that it isn’t my job to develop or fix other adults unless they ask for my help as a client.
In relationships, focusing on someone’s potential can lead to disappointment and wasted energy.
This is why being crystal clear about what we want is invaluable. Instead of feeling stuck in “struggle love” or ambiguous situations, knowing your standards allows you to accept only what aligns with your vision.
Crafting Your Vision: Focus on Qualities, Not Just Looks
When visualizing your ideal relationship, focus on the qualities you want in a partner. Do you value family orientation, education, a strong work ethic, kindness, or adventurousness?
Sometimes, love arrives in an unexpected package, and prioritizing superficial aspects can prevent us from seeing the goodness that’s truly right for us.
Ask yourself:
What type of relationship do I want?
Is it monogamous?
Is it long-term or are you exploring dating for fun?
Understanding your own needs and desires is the foundation for manifesting the right love.
Understanding the Different Stages of Dating
Dating, dating exclusively, and being in a relationship are not the same. If you’re wanting to get back into the dating scene, remember to take it as an opportunity to connect, learn, and have fun without unnecessary pressure.
Make sure you and your potential partner are on the same page about what dating means to each of you, as definitions can vary and miscommunication is common.
The Power of Visualization and Allowing Love In
How do you invite this love into your life?
The key is in positive visualization. Imagine your vision boldly and feel good about it. Let those positive emotions become your focus and allow love to come to you, instead of anxiously seeking or forcing outcomes.
This shift into a state of allowing rather than constant doing can make attracting what you desire feel effortless.
What’s Next in the Love Detox Challenge
I hope you found this exercise helpful and inspiring.
I encourage you to share your vision of love in the comments below.
Thank you all for being here. I hope your day is filled with clarity, big dreams, and abundant love.